I stopped in last week at a business that sells monuments in Essex County NJ for people who need different monuments for gravesites. It was not a big deal at all. I thought it would be hard for me to do after losing my wife just one day earlier. The employees there were very kind and understanding, and that was very soothing to me. I don’t know what I imagined would happen prior to walking in to the business, but I didn’t expect them to be so kind and help to walk me through everything wich such great care. I told them some of my feelings for my wife, and they helped me to figure out just the right saying to put on her headstone.

My spouse and I were only married for 5 years. I was smitten with her. She was my first wife. We dated about 6 years prior to our marriage, so we definitely spent a large chunk of time with one another. After we had our first child together, we were elated about our little family of three. She was feeling rundown and had an odd, painful feeling in her stomach just months after she gave birth, so she went to the doctor thinking being tired and the pain was related to that. They weren’t related to that at all. Instead, she found out that she had colon cancer. We were both devastated.

What stunned us was that my wife’s doctor told her she had only months to live because she had stage 4 cancer. We were both mad at the universe for a long time. We married late in life, just had our first kid, and now the universe wanted to rip our happy family apart and take my wife from me and our child forever. Over time, we made peace with it. We decided it would be best to live peacefully during her last months instead.